i agree IT IS difficult to offer honest support when someone vents and doesn't do what we think is best for the person. but why do people vent? i certainly DO NOT vent to get advice (i'm not saying others do the same). i really don't care about getting support either (again everyone is different). thank goodness everyone has the choice to read someone's post or not (typically, i do not read anyone's post over 10 lines long). what the heck is my point? well, this isn't a counseling medium...nor an advice column....it's a forum for support and we chose to give support or not....BUT INDIRECTLY telling someone not to vent about their problems because they do not do what we think that they should do....ummmphh....nevermind, i'm probably overanalyzing the situation...doing my breathing exercises now...sowwy.