hey there I agree with Shez.

I'm a college 1st year masters student. Undergrad also felt in and out for me... there's a lot of pressure put upon you. thing is as far as a job and girlfriend those are the types of things you have to be patient for. And PLEASE don't worry about being a virgin. Not to sound cliche but your first time should be special... it's not really that important to have sex early. It's not a bad thing to finish college and still be a virgin!

I'm also a music major - I've had a lot of mixed feelings about it. You can always have music in your life in some capacity no matter what you do. Music is a very hard profession. Don't choose it unless you are sure, but DO reach out and see what your options are. Maybe you just haven't found your ideal major yet. Lots of people switch focus in grad school - is your major broad enough to give you a few options? If you've taken math and english classes sometimes even in unrelated fields you can take a year of community college classes for pre-reqs + tests (GRE's etc) and go into a whole new field. So you have a lot more options than it seems right now. I know from personal experience - I felt so trapped in my major and though it's a pain to switch I believe it is possible. (i ended up sticking with the major but was doing a lot of research on switching into something COMPLETELY different in which I had no pre-reqs).


As far as being spoiled - i was spoiled to. Your time will come. I am now supporting more and more of my lifestyle and i'm still at school. Grad school is a different place. Also, its WORTH studying hard in college so you can get a better job. Work hard now, and you're more likely to be able to pull in enough money so that your parents won't have to help you out on things. Take it as a gift, but be practical about it. think about how you can start to support yourself after college, work hard on figuring out a few game plans for employment etc and give yourself TIME To figure it out.

Growing up takes time, I think you need to give yourself time to learn properly and healthily.


PM me if you want, I hope all goes well with you