This is my motto, and I try real hard to abide by it. At times I do fail and I take responsibility for those times. For the most part I do abide by it: "If you have nothing nice to say don't say it at all".
We each have our own personalized history, undiplicatable, and therefore it's impossible for me to pass judgment on anyone else. I'd need to walk a mental mile in their shoes but that is impossible as I have not lived the other's life.
The most I can do is humbly admit to myself that being that I am I and you are you I am unable to pass judgment on you.
Yes, PsychCentral is a place where we "should" be able to come to for support. If we want anything other than support I'm sure we know just who to talk to to get that. We come here for a specific reason, to be supported. I know that if I want nonsupport I can talk to my mother, my neighbor, my ex-hubby, my grocer, etc.
It's raining out there, the skies are dark with ominous clouds, and PsychCentral is (or "should" be) a safe haven , a soft place to fall, no matter what has brought us here.
Thanks for starting this thread.
Take gentle care!