This comment may be a repeat but I truely believe the majority of accountability rests on the shoulders of her husband and the mental health professionals who let her get to this point. Hillbunnyb is on the right track, because most people around me don't see 'me'. Even when I try to explain to someone, how feel gets 'downgraded'. My family thinks I should just 'think' my way out of my darkness and it's a choice. When I hear those comments, I think darn, what am I doing, I'm choosing to be this way and try to 'pretend' a little harder which only makes me fall from a higher plain.