Actually I see both points of view. From readind sweets previous posts she is dealing with ALOT right now and I would also have to think that her T probably knows her and the situation better than we do so she should follow his advice. He is the professional and he is dealing with her situation in her best interest.
I think its ok to vent. Some things are harder to deal with than others and some things take more time for us to work out.
I agree she should leave her husband for good but she has to do whats right for her and she is getting assistance.
If he doesnt want to go to church with the family than that is HIS loss and I think you should just continue doing as you normally do.
If you need to vent or whatever you can pm me anytime.
Heidu