Thanx Bebop..it does still hurt..but its ok..maybe my memory is fickled on the Yates issue..but I thought she had told her husband or that he had noticed something was not quiet right..I thought I had read he had some knowledge that her behavior was becoming odd..but then again its been along time since it made the headlines..its tragic any way you look at it..again thanks for the support..thought about deleting it because I am sorta raw with that issue..maybe why this thread struck a nerve and felt I needed to post it..