well, and you sure don't want comedians interpretating law. or mental patients. or comedic mental patients. but then to answer wiki's question, saying I quit cos I can't control you - that's stopping becausing of a control issue. Rupture to me is defined WITHIN a cycle of rupture, repair, repeat. Instead of "straws" building up and then finally breaking the camel's back, they are dealt with and removed as soon as they are placed there. So yeah, what mkac said, that her T is better at noticing - or maybe just at speaking up, risking to speak up. cos she notices, but she hides them in her pocket or up her sleeve to pull out later, an ace in the hole?