I agree. This is cartinly a light off moment. Is it due to body image that this is causing you concern. Try doing on top w/ a shirt on. Low cut, sleeveless maybe. Or a reg shirt. My H swears looks do not matter. It is the thought of the woman on top and the "action" that is the turn on. Of course if your good looking I'm sure it helps.

Is the concern due to fear of agressiveness on your part. It is easy to say just let that all go thats hard to do. Do you fear judgement. I don't think any amount of agressiveness of pleasure will be looked upon negatively by any man.

For me personally w/ me on top I could take it or leave it. There are positions that I like more but in the mindset of what is for someone elses enjoyment if that is what my H wants from time to time then your wish is my command.