Hello,

I am looking for a woman's advice one what my GF needs as she goes through emotional therapy. After the newness of our relationship wore off (about 4 months into a 15 month relationship), my GF started to pull away from me specifically when we weren't together. She recognized it (mostly) and acknowledges that she does it, but doesn't understand why. She says she wants to be with me and fall in love with me, but just can't for some reason. We both suspect it has a lot to do with her childhood and being neglected emotionally, and she is in therapy with a psychologist to find out what is going on. She has also recently stopped drinking as she acknowledges she covered up her emotional issues with alcohol.

Unfortunately, after a recent incident and in the heat of the moment, we sadly but gently broke up as a couple and I feel like I encouraged a wrong decision and that I'm failing to support her. If I thought she just didn't want to be with me, I would've left the relationship a long time go. She is sincerely confused and concerned by her behavior and wants to fix things within herself. I've told her I'm willing to talk to her, to see if we can sort this out together, but I also said the priority is her therapy right now and I am happy to be there for her when she needs me.

From a woman's emotional perspective, am I doing the right thing by backing off? How much should I be involved right now to maximize her healing while preserving what we have together?