Hi Wants2Help4 - this is a tricky situation. I think you've handled it reasonably well but my take on things are - if she's experiencing things personally which undermine an already difficult relationship, i think backing off for a bit is the right thing to do. I think offering her support emotionally as a friend is where things get difficult - are the boundaries clear? Do you still hold feelings for her? I think its a somewhat different scenario for folks who otherwise have a great relationship yet its made difficult by the illnesses they have. Perhaps just try phone contact for the time being and see what progress she makes with her recovery - if she feels she's getting better and wants to talk about her relationship with you then by all means meet with her but in my view, getting into relationships whether they be new or old when someone is in therapy isn't the wisest thing to do. Her emotions will probably be all over the place and she may not really know what she wants. I think you need to decide if you actually love this person and think you have a future with them. Are you prepared for when and if things get really rough? I hope ive been of some help and this situation resolves positively for the both of you. All the best.