Hello, all. I am not one to really do the whole online support group thingbut I thought I'd give it a try.

I'm currently in Afghanistan and my wife who suffers from OCD, bipolar, and now depression is doing badly. I just came back from R&R and have about half a year to go until I get back to the states.

She is totally obsessed with her weight and her very mild acne drives her to the point of exhaustion and rage. She cloisters up in the house (living with her parents while I'm deployed) and refuses to do anything with anyone if she is unhappy with her physical appearance.

I am fortunate enough to be in a FOB where I can call home every night and email/Skype. Bt every time we talk it devolves into me trying to calm her down and reassure her that her appearance or perception thereof is not as bad as she thinks it is . I am so mentally drained from doing this for 7 months that I had to tell her that I couldn't talk to her for a few days because I am starting to become depressed and suffer from anxiety attacks.

I know I can't fix her mental disorders, and she sees a therapist, but I think she has stopped taking her meds. I got into a big fight with her about taking meds, and she says all sorts of hateful things to me when she gets in a rage.

How do I support her from all the way over here without being an enabler but also without being cold or distant? I feel so tired and downtrodden. I have no energy for myself or anything other than work and her.

Any advice is appreciated.