One of the things ex t helped me with was asking. He would always say "ask me a question wiki". I have learned to ask H too, over the years. I started noticing little things H would do for me, and I would say "thanks, that really makes me feel loved". As I started learning what made me feel loved and relaying that info to H our whole relationship changed. He tells me what he needs, I tell him what I need. Now I just have to start doing that with others.

Others can't know what we need if we don't tell them, and how can we tell them when we don't know ourselves.