Hi Steve.....I completely get what you're saying, as I have so many regrets about choices I've made in my life, and especially when I'm in the grip of depression, it can be really hard to make peace with the past. I imagine you're familiar with this prayer, but I always feel it's worth repeating. (I know I have to remind myself of it a lot)....but personally I think it's one of the wisest things ever expressed. "God grant me the serenity to accept what I cannot change, the courage to change what I can....and the wisdom to know the difference." Best wishes to you ~whimsy