Thanks for all the replies.
I appreciate the feedback, support and suggestions.
I am continuing to deal with things a few minutes at a time.. day by day.
I have seen my therapist once since she has been back. That was helpful. She reminded me to not borrow trouble from tomorrow and to do my best to stay in the present, not live in the past. Just to deal with what is necessary for now and let tomorrow happen, knowing that I do not have to go through it alone.
I will use some of your suggestions too. In terms of taking care of myself, I think I will give me permission to light a scented candle today and just enjoy it. Maybe sit in my favorite chair with my head back and my eyes closed and enjoy the scent. I can not do it now, but I will do this for me today.
I might try the bubble thing too, as washing the dishes usually brings anger with it, so I can maybe change the feelings of that activity but just gaining a new perspective. Instead of feeling resentment for having to wash the dishes, I can use the chore as an opportunity to experience and have fun with the bubbles. Why not?
Thanks again for all the help. God bless you all.