Unfortunately entering therapy means working on those issues we hate to get into for whatever reasons. I have had therapist give me this ultimatum alot when I didn't want to work on any hard stuff.

One took time to explain to me that a person enters therapy because they are ready to work on those hard issues that are making it hard to funtion. If I wasn't going to be working on things with her it was basically a waste of her time, my time and my money. She asked me why I should be paying a therapist close to $100.00 an hour just to come in and say its a nice day out today, when I can be doing that for free with a friend. Therapy is a business where the goal of it is to work on problems in the persons life that is preventing them from funtioning. When they have no more problems that are interferring with daily living or the client does not want to work on their problems then its time for a break in therapy. Taking a break did not mean I could never enter therapy again when I was ready to take care of my problems. Everyone takes breaks from therapy from time to time to do things that are more important in their life, in fact she would tell her clients "When your outside of therapy life is more important then your inside therapy life or you have no more problems for me to get on your back side about" when they ask "when will I be done with therapy", or how long should I or do I have to see you for?"

Ever since whenever I came up against the don't want to work on any problems or I had to attend to my life outside of therapy I took a break.

Therapy isn't something that anyone has to complete in one giannt slap of therapy work with the same therapist, A client works on what they want to and when they need to take care of other things its ok to do that and then come back to therapy later on either with the same therapist or someone new.

Im sorry that the therapist didn't take time to explain that the ultimatum he was giving you was pretty much the way the therapy field is and what therapy is for and when its time to take these breaks.

He is probably leaving you alone so that you can decide what you want to do - get back to work, take a break of find someone new. from the post and his telling you your options to me it sounds like He's basically leaving the door open for you and the decision making up to you to make, he cant do anything else for you if you are not ready to work with him.

Its kind of like a person with cancer and has been told their options chemo, radiation, or nothing and then the doctor stands back and waits for the patient to decide what they want to do. Some choose chemo, some choose radation, some choose both and still others say you know Ive had so much of the treatment that I can't do anymore right now. The only option the doctor has is to honor that decision and let the person sign themselves out of treatment until they are ready to go to battle again. and give advice as to where to go in the meantime if they have a problem.

I told my gastroenterologist look Ive had 6 endocopies in the past 2 years I don't weant to go through that again right now. Whats his only option - refer me to my family physician for monitoring my blood counts if I want and say see you when you are ready to get back to participating in the treatment I have to offer.

Mental health is the same way - you made your therapist aware of what you want and based on what you told him he gave you the options available to you according to hjis profession and agency rules. and now what happens from here on out is up to you.

Suggestion - sit down with paper and pen and write out what your problems are and what you can do about them now and what you cant do about them now and the options that he gave you and any options that you can think of for example there may be a support group in your community about the problems that you are having. Then once you have all your problems, options down and so on make your decision on what you want to do about taking care of you and your problems.