(((RaindropVampire))),

I think you got a lot of good responses here to your question. What I would suggest is to maybe copy this thread and share it with the mother of this child. The worst thing to do is remain "ignorant" and be "afraid" and do nothing to help this child.
She needs to "learn" about what this behavior means and not to think this child is just going to be taken away somehow. There is more knowledge and help out there than there used to be. And this child can be helped more than if she just continues to allow these behavior patterns to grow and even gain control over the family itself.

I wish that had happened in my family, my older brother struggled and there was so little known back then and he was just disciplined heavily and unfortunately it made him worse. I paid dearly for that and it did really disrupt our family environment. Everyone suffered and now there is so much more help so that doesn't happen.

Open Eyes