Hi Sweet,

I can't read too many previous posts. I don't really have the time or inclination, and it's in the past and I want to deal with the present. I can't even begin to know or understand what your life has been like these past 23 years, what you've endured, what you've discussed previously. Please understand that whatever I post here is from a very naive standpoint. I am responding to just the words in just this post.

My first thought was, does it matter? This is how I'm trying to live: no matter what anyone else does, I am responsible for the way I think and feel. I could let it affect me negatively or not. I try to choose not. My second thought was, if it really is between God and himself, what can you do? I guess you could try and ask what God said, but it may be more important to ask yourself, what do I want to do?

Maybe the best thing you could do is to show that it doesn't bother you. If what he's after is to push your buttons, then, to me, the best response is no response. If open communication is not an option (and I think it should be the first option), then by not responding, by doing what you want to do (maybe continue going to church without him?), gives you the power and not him.

I think that any time we let someone else influence how we feel, we give that power away. Take back the power by showing what he does doesn't affect you, even if you have to pretend at first. These are just my thoughts and opinions.

Take care, Sweet.

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