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Originally Posted by LolaCabanna
Its probably hurting her NOT to be able to reach out to you and that email was exactly like i thought it would sound.... you are wanting to elicit a response so it makes your reaching out OK...when you both agreeded its not... I know it hurts honey but T's are smart, I don't think she will bite...buts its because she is doing whats in YOUR best interest.  |
Whether it's good for me or not, my T replied with "If you're still feeling this way tomorrow, give me a call. Hopefully you will feel better." I'm glad she answered me. I know what I need to work on but I think it's too drastic a change for me all at once. I have to get used to the somatic experiencing too, which is very hard for me. The rules are to help me but not to the extent of making me totally miserable. I will try not to have to call her.
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Originally Posted by adel34
Hi Rainbow,
That makes sense about her being firmer with you after agreeing about the not e-mailing and doing the DBT group. I would hope that she and the DBT leader will talk. I know with me and all these places I'm going to they want to talk to your therapist and any other person you're working with. So yeah, hopefully that will help.
I agree with Lola. I'm sure it's just as hard for her not to respond if that helps at all. Good for you for going to the class today. I'm sure the DBT people will be proud!
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Thanks again, adel. The DBT leader didn't indicate that she needed to talk to my T but I hope she will agree to, since my T wants to talk to her!
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Originally Posted by rainbow_rose
rainbow, everyone has said such good things. i don't see this a blowing it... look how much work you have done on this issue. this does not make it a fail. plus, you know you can do it so there's much less unknown about that.
be kind to rainbow. she's kinda nice.  |
Rainbow_rose, you are SO sweet. Thank you! I've been looking at it in black/white thinking. I failed. That's why I don't do a lot of things in my life. If it's not perfect, I think I failed.
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Originally Posted by Sannah
Rainbow, it sounds like you are doing exactly what you need to be doing. Good work! You know that when it hurts that there is something that needs to be healed there. Maybe tuning into your body is tuning into reality instead of the fantasy T relationship that you have going in your head. You can do this!
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Yes, the SE is about me though I was doing it about how I felt about my T, at least for some of the time. Maybe what bothers me is that T now makes my feelings for her so clinical, I guess is the word. The hurt is very deep. I wish I could understand it better.
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Originally Posted by ECHOES
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Thank you, ECHOES. I do feel like something blew up and exploded! I couldn't take it any more but I have to! I'm feeling better because I went out tonight, but I'm still sad and grieving.
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Originally Posted by adel34
I agree with Rose, Rainbow is awesome!
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Aw, adel. You're pretty awesome yourself!