You don't have to "sugar coat" anything for me......I'm ok with other people's opinions. Sometimes I need a good boot in the behind to get myself to wake up and smell the roses. It's just that right now...as my T has said to me...just isn't the right time for me to file for divorce. I do plan on doing so down the road.......I'm just waiting till the time is right.
Take Care, (& I'm sorry tis turned out to be a battle rather than just me venting)

Sweet

"It's never too late to be what you might have been". George Eliot