thank you all for your replies , i did go out ( no strippers ) at first it was hard and i found that i was very nervous and kept very quiet, but after we started playing bowls i relaxed a bit and started to enjoy myself , i had a few adult pops (beer) and think it helped me to go out again?? but not sure.....

sujin...... my wife sugested that i went but leave if it got to much for me , she was working .......