There's no right or wrong way to feel. Feelings just are - and by exploring those feelings, a lot of discoveries can be made. When I'm struggling, I am comforted by expressions of empathy - as it helps to validate my feelings somewhat. I notice that when I feel angered by expressions of sympathy, it's typically because I somehow see it as a reflection of how the person feels towards me overall, as if I am now "less than" because of what I endured.