Hi seeker1950 - i was a dental nurse back when i was working and i completely understand your worries about visiting the dentist. It saddens me that for a lot of people its an unpleasant experience - how ive seen some nurses behave made me determined to do the best job that i could. The only thing i can really suggest is if you're not happy with your current care carry on looking around until you find a place where the dentist is open and warm and the nurses are sensitive and quick thinking. I know this sounds easier said then done but when i was back in practice the little things made all the difference - holding someones hand when they felt nervous, mediating with the dentist so that the patient had as much information as possible, smiling before the patient went under anaesthetic and smiling again when they woke up - its all about reassurance and having patience. With hospitals too these days patients seem to be rushed in and out of a facility without so much as a hello mrs. such and such how are you today? All this said some procedures are still going to be unpleasant and will be difficult to undergo but thats why having a dentist you feel you can trust makes all the difference. I hope the work you have to have goes well - ask as many questions as you need too, a dentist wants to know how to help you in the best way he or she can otherwise you'll take your care elsewhere. All the best.