Hi BluebytheWater,

Welcome to PC! This is a great place to be. I am in a very similar situation to you in that I just told someone about the abuse over the last two months.

I can say for myself that the best thing I have done is to go to a counselor who specializes in s*x**l abuse (that is what I had, not clear from your post if that is the same for you). I have also been slowly reading The Courage to Heal and The Courage to Heal Workbook. Both of these have been very helpful, but I don't think I could ever manage to deal with everything that is coming up without my therapist. She is truly wonderful and gifted.

I also agree with you that confronting the abuser is probably not a good idea right now (if ever, depending on your circumstances). If you don't think you can handle it, you should listen to yourself.

If you do decide to seek a therapist, the Courage to Heal Workbook has a good section on how to go about finding one.

I hope that you find a lot of support here and are also able to finally begin healing.



Elizabeth