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Sep 12, 2012, 04:51 PM
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Member Since: Sep 2012
Location: Minnesota
Posts: 3
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I don’t know what to do. I need some advice.
My ex of three years and I were engaged. Last July he left me for another woman he’d been seeing for four months of the end of the relationship. She is 10 years younger than I am, 5 years younger than him, and she was divorced LESS than 2 years before they started dating. He dated her for months and lied to me.
He did horrible things to me like one time I was almost going to call an ambulance I was so sick and I begged him to come give me a ride to the hospital (we lived together but he said he was camping with his mother/dad and his grandma), and we live far away from a hospital. Instead of being honest (he was driving my car and didn’t own a car), he said he was camping – he was really with her. I had to call a friend and pay her to take me to the hospital. That’s just one instance.
He told me he wanted to break up with me in June last year, but then relented and pretended that if I got help for my bipolar ii disorder that maybe he'd still stay with me. He even went as far as to put all the problems in our relationship on me for blame, making me feel worse. I cried so much. I lost thirty pounds from not eating I was so stressed out and then my hair even started falling out. All this time he was spending the night with her even though we lived together and blaming these "absenses" on his family and best friend, I felt humilated when I found out.
Anyhow we broke up in July without him ever saying more then, “I don’t love you anymore.” “I met someone.” He really, really hurt me. 2 months after he started dating her they were engaged and living together, three months after that they were MARRIED.
I am so, so angry. I’ve moved on and started dating and I’m now engaged to a wonderful man who I marry next summer, but I’m still ANGRY. I purposely harass them because I wanted an apology from both of them (the girl knew he had a fiancé but kept seeing him and then had the audacity to blame me for his cheating because the “problems started before” she was involved, according to her).
I see them around town (live in a small city) and they started spreading all these lies and falsehoods about me and HE’S texted me nasty things when I tried to be kind to him and communicate with him FOR specified reasons. He threatens harassment on me. He’s abandoned EVERY SINGLE FRIEND WE HAD IN COMMON, he’s not friends with them anymore. He’s a complete jerk now.
Ideas on how for me to get over this and no longer want to harass these nimwits?
HE LIED TO ME AND HAD ME PAY ALL THE BILLS AND USED MY CAR WHILE HE WAS SEEING HER FOR MONTHS AND MONTHS AND HE DOESN’T HAVE THE DECENCY TO EVEN TELL ME SORRY?
I really pray that their marriage doesn’t work out and they divorce….I mean isn't there a saying, "if he cheats with you, he'll cheat on you"? I mean no SOLID marriage can last after only knowing each other for 4 months, living together immediately at that point, and then getting married five months later.
I also found really inappropriate texts and pictures of HER on his phone before we broke up, officially.
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