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Originally Posted by murray
Hi Rainbow 
I have been reading your threads and I don't really have much to offer as you have gotten lots of feedback and I have never done DBT or any of that. One thing that you said though I want to comment on.
In one of your replies above you said "I don't want to be miserable."
The thing is honestly no one wants to be miserable but it isn't a permanent condition. You need to learn to tolerate the negative feelings and trust that they will not last forever. I would guess that after you learn to tolerate them that it will become more manageable. I wish you luck in all of this.  |
Thank you, murray. I suppose I do tolerate negative feelings now that I think about it. I obsess about them and then I distract myself. Distraction seems to be the only method that works for me, but it doesn't work so well.
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Originally Posted by minneymouse
Hi rainbow
I was thinking today that perhaps the problem is that the demands of therapy are out of sync with your actual skills? It sounds like the Somatic Experiencing your T is so keen on is about really getting in touch with your feelings, but you haven't yet got to the Emotion Regulation skills in DBT, which would equip you to actually handle the feelings. In fact, you haven't even done the distress tolerance module yet, which would help you to soothe yourself and to develop crisis survival skills. I don't know how much your T knows about DBT, or about the planned timetable for your group, but it might be valuable for her to link up with them as she suggested.
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Thanks for the practical advice, minneymouse. I think you're right. I have done a lot of mindfulness but I agree I need the distress tolerance and emotion regulation skills. I have read all the DBT handouts in the past. Most recently I read them last year about this time, but I haven't tried to use them, except for distraction, which I have always done on my own. I have DBT tomorrow; I will tell the leader that my T wants to talk with her. I don't know why but I'm a little nervous about asking her/telling her. She won't say no, will she?
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Originally Posted by Brightheart
Sitting with your feelings might offer you a way to cope during times when your T is not available. You know yourself best, though, Rainbow, and what works for you.
Take care. I hope you feel better.
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Thank you for caring, Brightheart. I do feel better today. I had yoga and my yoga teacher is almost like a T! I love that class!
I want to sit with my feelings if that is going to helpful. I just don't know HOW. When I have done that in the past, I obsess or ruminate (DBT leader likes that word better) and then I finally distract myself with a book or some activity. Is that "sitting with my feelings," or does it mean something else?