Thread: Angry at T
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Old Sep 12, 2012, 11:43 PM
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Originally Posted by rainbow8 View Post
I understand! Unfortunately, way too well. It hurts when you realize that your T has a private life with a family and you're not part of it. It can make you angry and sad that your T is not your mother, that she has a "real" daughter to love. That's the harsh reality.

But your T also has you, and you have her. She has a special, unique relationship with you that has nothing to do with her daughter. She's not comparing you with her. You are special to her in a different way. Not in a less important way, either. T's have a lot of love to give. It's not "either her daughter or you".

I know it's hard to accept the reality and not the fantasy. You know I struggle with it and that's why I'm angry (at least it's one reason) with my T too. You're not alone.

Crying and being angry with your T makes sense. It's grief, like any other grief. I hope you can talk to your T about these feelings. She will help you with them.
It wasn't a fantasy though for me... I truly got the impression that she really liked me. That was great! She is only one that I've let into my life since I met my bestie when I was 4. It took me almost a year to let her in (I finally got it last week). Only a week. I should have known that it wouldn't last... To great to be true. This is why I don't let others in- because all u get is hurt.
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