Ft1980 --
Just my opinion on this little tid bit-- and it can be taken or left or pondered on or advanced on- but

i think being a friend to yourself and not so much an enemy, first and for most is an important thing... it can be hard for some people (I myself have difficulties some day but it is a work in progress)... being you and not some one else, is a really important thing in life...

it you that has to live with you for this life time