It's okay to have feelings. But you have to constantly talk to yourself when your feelings are as intense as they are for you.

You say that your therapist compares her daughter to you. How do you know this? Has she ever told you? If she hasn't, then I would stop with the mind-reading and focus on what you can know. Even if she is comparing you to her daughter, you don't know how. Maybe her daughter is a spoiled princess-type, and she prefers your personality style. Maybe she wishes her daughter had some of your traits. Or not. You don't know what's going on in her head. It doesn't matter in the end, as long as she does right by you.

You say she's changed. How do you know this? How long have you been with her? I have the feeling that your relationship is fairly new. Maybe she normally takes a while to get back to patient's emails/texts. Maybe her initial behavior of instantly responding was unusual for her. Consider that this may be the "new" normal--the bar at which you should set your expectation level to. And expect that to change as you get better. Therapy is about change.

You see your therapist 3X a week, if I remember correctly. This may be making you extra sensitive to the vagaries of your therapist's behavior. I know that my therapist is much more on the ball when I see her in the afternoon than in the morning. Once I had an appointment with her right after she'd swam laps at the pool. Just seeing her with wet hair made her seem different to me. My appointment is usually on Monday, but I've occasionally worked with her later in the week. She's like a totally different person, and sometimes I feel like I have to re-introduce myself. Her mood also seems dependent on how I'm feeling and what we end of talking about. Sometimes she's more distant and self-absorbed, and sometimes we are perfectly attuned. When I have a not-so-great session, I know I can count on the next one being fabulous. As you go through this, you get used to things not always being the same.

Feelings are neither right or wrong, but the underlying thoughts behind them can be. If you can't address the thoughts that are driving you mad, you are going to be cruising for a bruising. You realize your therapist isn't supposed to be at your beck and call all the time, right? That's what residential/in-patient care is for.