You don't have to answer this.

Why did you stop answering her calls?

I am asking this because sometimes, in my bpd mind, I hear a voice that says, "You really don't need this person." or "Why are you bothering this person?" or "If you keep associating with this person, they will get sick of you." etc.

And then I stop associating with them. I am learning this is part of my bpd; Sabotage.

Just my own experience.

You can answer or not. You may have other reasons why you did not answer her calls.

We learn from our mistakes.

There is always "living amends", where we can try again with another situation and avoid that mistake if we can.

this is a growing experience.

Billi