Thank you to all that responded. I am very proud of him, i dont think any less of him, if anything i thing my admiration grows realizing how strong he has been in what he faces.

I need to hear as many stories as possible from you guys . Because I actually feel like I have failed as a mother. I haven't failed because I have a gay son. I have failed because I had no idea what he was/is going through. When he came out, he told us he was depressed for 3 years and wanted to kill himself. We didn't know he was sad, depressed, or realizing he was gay. We are actually friends with his pediatrician. I called her asking for a counselor. She was shocked. I told my best friend. Who is shocked and thinks he is just confused because there were no signs.

Also to anyone who is angry at their parents for not being supportive. Know that finding this out about my son is the most difficult challenge I have ever faced. I am depressed. I feel like I have failed and I have failed my son and family. My daughter (15) is inconsolable. Her brother was her best friend. She as well as my husband have a very strong catholic faith. This goes against everthing she believes in. I am trying to support both kids at completely opposite ends of the spectrum. I am not doing a very good job.

So please send positive comments and ideas on how to hold this family together in a supportive loving way!