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Originally Posted by KazzaX
That is the problem.. I don't want anyone to witness it. I can do the being vulnerable thing at home by myself, its easy. I am just curious though.. why does it matter if anyone sees you or not? Does it make any difference? I mean you could be upset at the library and your librarian would see it, you'd be being vulnerable and have a witness. Is it the same?
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Ah, but if you're crying at home, by yourself, you're not really being vulnerable...it's controlled, alone, safe.
For me - having a witness matters because I was always taught that I shouldn't let anyone see me cry. That it was shameful to cry in front of others. Having a witness is helping me to learn that it's okay to let others see my emotions, and that it's okay to let myself experience my emotions. It makes a difference who it is...for starters, I wouldn't cry in front of a complete stranger. Also, I need to know that someone that knows me and cares about me is okay with me crying and letting myself show emotions other than "happy and pleasant." Not sure if that makes any sense or not. I just know that for me, it is important to have a witness to my emotions, and that it's important for it to be someone that knows me well and seems to care about me.