I guess the healing part for me was just being allowed to cry without the standard "stop crying, it'll be okay" or "Stop or I'll give you a reason to cry" or "Oh, don't cry it's not that bad".

the way i felt just simply got to exist. If I was upset and cried, then I cried. No one got all freaked out about it.

For me, it had very little to do with vulnerability, the words and feelings were much more of a big deal than the water running down my face.