I have a question for all you people who cry in front of your T's and whatnot. I think the right word there is "vulnerable". What do you hope your therapist will do while you're sitting there bawling your eyes out? What is the healing bit there? Is it all the pat-on-the-back, mother reaction of "itll be OK" and mother soothing type stuff? Is it that you want your T to feel the same pain as you? Is it empathy? What is it that you are after when you cry in front of the T?

I am supposed to be learning how to do this but I am not interested in any empathy, sympathy, mother-ish reactions, or patting on the back (and certainly not any "its going to be ok" type BS). None of that works for me and I find it very annoying. My T is wondering what she should do while im sitting there crying. My preference is just sit there quietly, away from me, until I get rid of the crying and back to normality. In the real world, I do not cry in front of people because what I am feeling is none of their business. But in T is IS her business, literally and figuratively, lol. So I am wondering how we are going to pull this one off.

Is there anything any of you guys want during crying episodes that is not your typical, run of the mill, textbook sympathy stuff? What is it? I need to find something because she can't just sit there and do nothing.... the crying in front of her is supposed to be therepeutic but it only is if she does the right reaction. There is no reaction that I personally would like ( iwould rather not cry in front of her at all to be honest, haha), so maybe if one of you has an out of the box suggestion, it could be used as a stand in. Something like that.