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Leed · Sep 14, 2012, 07:10 AM

Probalbly one reason you lack trust in people is because your mother didn't protect you. That's obvious, as well as your uncle and how he beat you unmercifully, and you had to be alert 24/7. This is all pretty obvious.

So you don't trust anyone.

It's going to be hard, but little by little you're going to have to START trusting. I think you've started with your therapist, correct? You trust him, is that right? So you've made a little progress there. Do you think you could start to trust your boyfriend WITHOUT dominating him? Do you think perhaps you could try to maintain this relationship on an "even keel?" Both of you should be equal partners -- this will be difficult for you since you're used to being the domineering one, but you will have to try to give him equal partnership.

You don't trust your mother obviously because she didn't protect you. Why not talk to her on a one on one basis, and tell her how you feel -- and then hopefully you can proceed on an ADULT level and an EQUAL level, without you domineering her. Again, you'd have to work on this.

But she's your mother, and I assume you LOVE her.

You don't want to proceed to fast with any of this. Try the two of them first, and see how it feels. If you can get thru the two of them you can get thru anyone. But treat people as equals, not underlings.

God bless you and take care. Hugs, Lee