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Leed · Sep 14, 2012, 07:30 AM

Bless your heart. I went thru the same thing with my son. He and his "friend" got drunk and set a farmers field on fire. They were convicted of arson, and got sentenced to 4 years. My son did 2 1/2. He was in what USED to be the largest walled prison in the world. I was terrified of what might happen to him because he's 6'3" but only weight about 140. There are murderers, rapists, you name it in there. Luckily, nothing "bad" happened to him. He would have told me, for sure.

We got thru probabion ok, but now he's been in the hospital for almost 3 months due to alcohol. He almost died as his liver stopped working completely. Today I bring him home. His liver is working a "little." He won't live a long life, and if he drinks again, it's certain death.

I know your fears dearheart. All I can say is YOU taught your children right from wrong. You instilled in them what you were suppoed to. THEY HAVE MADE THEIR OWN CHOICES. YOU did NOT tell them to make these choices they're making now. This is NOT your fault and there is nothing you can do about it.

I know you feel helpless, and I did too while my son was drinking. But there is/was nothing we can do!!! Once they have left our home, that's it. And even if they still live in the home, once they go out for the night, we can't control them after they're 18. There's not a darn thing we can do. They hook up with the wrong people, and that's it.

I know you're panicked. I know you're worried. I know you're sick. But you have to take care of YOU. Yes, we love our children, but we're killing ourselves with this worry & panic.

We have to give our children to God. WE have to PRAY that God will watch over them. That's what I have done, and so far it has worked, because my son is alive and 3 months ago, they called us at the hospital at 3:30am and toldl us to come because he was dying. And today Im bringing him HOME! And this is also the child that at 7 yrs old, they told us he was dying of leukemia, in 1977, but guess what? He beat it!!! So God has saved this boy many many times!

I'm not saying to give up on your sons. Not by any means. Of course you have to support them. But don't ENABLE THEM. Don't bail them out, or make things to easy for them. They'll never learn. Just give them to God to take care of. You have to have some peace of mind my dear. God bless and take care. Hugs, Lee