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Originally Posted by here today
But that's the point -- I dissociated my hateful, vengeful feelings and have not been able get that system back just through feelings. I can tell when that system is getting activated and shut it down. But then lots of potential social information and nuance gets shut down, too. So when people like you, who haven't had that difficulty, make comments about how you do things that I can't -- then it definitely comes across to me as judgmental and belittling. Hence hateful -- you don't want to be around people like me because I can't do the kinds of things you do emotionally and socially. So where the blankety-blank-blank do I learn, if not in therapy?
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I am not trying to speak for Chris, but I read her as saying "this is how it is for me". She is describing her own experience and why she has made the choices that she has.
Her explaining what she does in not about you. Even if you can't yet do what she can, her ability to do this is not a judgment or a put down of you, either directly or otherwise. Is there a way that you can see what she wrote as something to learn from, or an inspiration or something to shoot for, and not as a comment about you?