It's not a fantasy for you and while I don't know your T I would bet that she really does like you and that is not a fantasy either. The fact that she has a daughter doesn't mean that she isn't connected to you in some way.

I am a mom and I LOVE my boys with all my being. I will never stop loving them however does that mean I can't love other people outside of my family? NO! And the love I have for other people in my life IS DIFFERENT because those relationships aren't a mother/son/daughter relationship - in some ways I find those relationships outside my family to be fulfilling in very different ways that help me grow as a person and I BELIEVE that I have an influence on them even though I may not be a blood relative.

Having said all that I know how badly it hurts. What's hurting is the little girl inside that wants to be loved like she should have from the beginning and how she deserved to be. I am a 'grown up' on the outside but the little girl is still inside screaming, hiding, scared, crying and hurt so it's natural for me to want my T to be that mom I've always wanted (for lack of a better description). The little girl in me wants/ed my T to be my everything. Now I am in a 'better place' and feel less needy however I still have an attachment to my T and that's ok. I respect the boundaries while at the same time loving and appreciating her for all that she has done to help me.

It's only natural to scrutinize every little action of our T's when we've been let down so many times before from other people who should have loved us the way we deserved to be. Having said that there are some T's out there who can come across as being less than sensitive but I don't think that's the case with your T (just my 2 cents worth).

I hope you don't find my post offensive or 'strong' in nature but just know I'm coming for a good place in my message and please explore all that your feeling about T to T. love::

PS a great link on attachment: http://www.afterpsychotherapy.com/at...tionship/:hug: