My brother and I are complete and utter opposites in terms of personalities, temperments, and life styles. He is an extrovert, strong willed, determined, highly motived, high energy, Type A,...etc whereas I am the complete opposite to him. He has been in many long term relationships and is now married. He is a full time university student and has a full time job. Again, I'm the complete opposite to him. As well he doesn't have a dx mental illness whereas I do.

My brother and I seem to only get along when I agree to be submissive to him and remain emotionally neutral.

He likes to say things like "Zen, you have a mental illness...blah...blah". When he says things like this to me I feel like a load of crap. I feel inferior to him and I certianly do not feel respected nor loved by him.

I do my best to distance myself from him because his choice of words and behaviour towards me makes my blood boil.

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He has agreed to come over and discuss my financial situation with me tentively sometime next week. He insists on being in control in every conversation we have, he likes to give me a psych evaluation almost everytime we are together, and to "tell me how life is" and "how I should live my life".

I am dreading him coming over. I want to keep it strictly professional and stick to the matter at hand...my financial situation...NOT my mental health situation.

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Any ideas on how to talk to someone like this?