Can you explain how it's a need, not a want? Like is this because you're mother told you this was the acceptable way for you to wear your hair? And now you have the stress of change and new job, and need a mom's advice? Just trying to understand the whole situation. Only answer if you want.

BF's are such dumdums about such things. Mine has told me the same thing, and I think I told him to **** off cuz he's 47 with graying hair and I still get carded for smokes. But he just can't compute that you don't say that to a lady.