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but anyways, like two after this happened...i hvae been alot like the first day, but ive been "going to the bathroom" aka--number two!!

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Two what? Two days, two weeks?

You start urinating more during pregnancy, but not right away. I don't recall having more frequent BMs with either of my kids. Your breasts get sore and heavy, but not two days afterwards. You have to wait until August 7 to find out if your pregnant why? When was your last period? When did you have sex? You normally ovulate at the halfway mark between the first day of your last period and the first day of your next period. There's a window of a couple days before and after the mid point where pregnancy can happen as well. I don't know how long sperm will last in a swimming pool outside of the body. Anyone else know? I'm thinking the pool chemicals are going to kill them pretty quickly. If he wasn't in you and didn't ejaculate, I'm thinking any sperm that were still on him didn't live too long in the pool water. As far as still in him, well, yeah, that goes without saying. Unless he's sterile now or becomes so in the future, he's going to have "stuff" in him for the rest of his life.

Both of my pregnancies were easy. I had a short labor with my daughter, really short. I went from feeling slightly restless at 2:00 a.m. to her being born at 9:30 a.m. I was at 9 cm and in transition when I arrived at the hospital (that's just about the closest to delivery I could have been without having delivered her in the car during the 10-minute drive). Within 45 minutes of arriving at the hospital, they'd gotten me signed in, in a room, changed into a gown, and telling me to push. They had to screw a heart monitor into my daughter's head through my vagina. Her pulse kept stopping because labor was too strong, too fast. They were worried I was going to lose her and were thiiiiis close to doing an emergency C section.

My son had other ideas. I started feeling that same restless feeling more than 24 hours before he was born. I went to the hospital about 12 hours later, after putting in nearly a full day of work and trying to take care of my 2-year-old daughter since my husband didn't believe I was as uncomfortable as I was. At 10:00 p.m., I was only at 1 cm. Six-plus hours later I'd still barely dilated. You need to be at 10 cm to start pushing. The student nurse came in to "check to see how far you're dilated." I told her "you're not going to find my cervix there." Her - "Yes I am." Me - "NO, you're NOT." I kept telling them that my water hadn't broke yet. They insisted it had. My doctor finally arrives 8 hours after I got to the hospital. His first words - "Her water hasn't broken yet." He popped the amniotic sac and my son was born half an hour later. I went through almost 9 hours of in-hospital labor and had to put up with an idiotic nurse who couldn't tell the difference between a rectum and a vagina, a husband who was telling me to stop moving around so much and having my butt stick out of the gown, and who told the nurses that "that injection really took the edge off of her pains." Yeah, right, like HE knew. All because no one would listen to me and just break my damn water or call the doctor in earlier.

Then came the nonstop feedings and diaper changes and baths and laundry that I had to do 90% on my own because my husband had some messed up idea that moms are supposed to do everything. (He might have done some laundry. Everything else was up to me). Constantly being woken up because I was breast feeding and she was a slow eater. When she wasn't eating at night, my husband was trying to get me to have sex. Three weeks after delivery, my doctors were begging me to come back to work because the other transcriptionists weren't doing their dictation correctly. Same routine all over with my son.

If I remember correctly from past posts, your family isn't very supportive of you as it is. Are they going to become more supportive when there's an unplanned pregnancy in the family? Are you ready to be a full-time mom at 17? Are you ready for no more sleep and frequent doctor visits and no more time or money for yourself. How much does that cashier job pay? $5.50 an hour maybe? Day care 15 years ago was $150 a week. That's 27 hours of work, pre tax, just to take care of the baby while you're working that job. That gives you 13 hours of your weekly paycheck to cover food, clothes, housing, transportation, diapers, formula (or extra-healthy food if you decide to breast feed).

Don't assume that you will get help from the father and the families. If you don't get their support, can you REALLY take care of one or more babies within the next year, for the next 18 years, more if they have any kind of medical or developmental difficulties?

Having a baby isn't like playing with dolls or babysitting. It's WORK. Unpaid work that you have to do on top of the work that pays a wage.

I seriously hope you aren't pregnant and that this will scare you into being more careful in the future. From my own experience, though, sex makes one stupid more often than not and any thoughts of being safe tend to fly out the window.