Hi Lost in Florida

My heart goes out to you. Only he can stop his SA if and when he is ready to deal with it.

Maintain your self respect and don't let him abuse you...that's how my husband's disorder evolved. He treated me worse and worse. Abuse doesn't fade away...or appear out of nowhere.I hope you have a therapist to help you through this. Couples therapy will only work if there is mutual respect and a willingness to change. When someone is abusive, couples therapy just becomes another tool for them. I've been there. I hope your situation is better.