I used to SI..and I have visible scars..and when I met my now hubby I had TONS of emotional baggage and they were things that I was unwilling to talk about..fortunately for me..my mother was willing to do all the talking for me..she laid it out for him..took him in a small room and told him everything..I expected him to run as fast as he could..and you know what..He told me he loved me more for it..loved the fact that I was different..loved the fact that I was deep..and loved that fact that I was special..it took me a while..for I did not trust a word that he spoke to me..to me they were just words..how many times had I heard people speak words to me but didn't mean them? But not only spoke these words to me..but he showed them as well..He SHOWED me that he truely loved me..scars inside and out..and because of this I came to trust and love him as well..something I never though possible..We have been happily married three years now..