Just to get you up to speed. I'm 37 years old and lost my father when i 15, my mother was there for me finacially as long as i did as she said and was her maid until i was married at an early age. For many years now all i have wanted is for my mother to love me and be there for me emotionally. She is detached it seems from any feelings and has always been with this way. I have 2 sisters and a brother and she is only close to one sister out of all of us. I don't get it!!!!!!!!!!! How can a mother not love and be close to their children??????????? My daughter and I are very close.
Anyway what brought on this bought of depression and feeling bad is i finally moved back close to my home town about 6 years ago...my mother has only been to my house twice even though i'm only an hour away. Well this coming Monday i have to go into the hospital and she said she would like to come go with me and stay with me afterwards. I THOUGHT "GREAT" THIS IS WONDERFUL. When i called her yesterday i was going to ask what special things she might need while she is here so i could have everything she would need on hand. I didn't get the chance to ask....she told me she wasn't coming. Even though i'm 37 years old, it still hurt. I thought for once "JUST ONCE" she would be there for me emotionally. I haven't even told my husband yet that she isn't coming because it hurts me to know that my own mother doesn't really care...His family is so loving and they have always been good to me, so i guess i'll have to break down and tell him and then i'll have to ask his mother to come on short notice. HOW CAN A MOTHER BE SOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO DETACHED FROM HER OWN CHILDREN>??????????????????? I WILL NEVER UNDERSTAND THIS I wish my father was still around...he was all around when he was needed.