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Leed · Sep 16, 2012, 01:59 PM

How long ago was this? Did you lose the baby due to being hit/abused?

Obviously, this was a very toxic and violent relationship that should have been ended before it was.

But that's a moot point. It's tragic that you lost the baby, but the here and now is what were dealing with.

Sometimes anger is healthy. It's healthy when it spurs us to action -- but what action can you take NOW.?? I don't think there is any that can be taken, If this was years ago, it's too late.

Now you have to deal with YOUR feelings of anger -- what is the anger doing FOR you? Has it been beneficial? I doubt it. It has just kept the horror alive all this time. These memories need to be put to rest. It serves you no purpose in bringing these memories to mind at ANY time -- that only serves to anger you once again, making you miserable.

I would suggest you get a referral to a good therapist. Ask your doctor to refer you to one that he trusts. Therapy will be good for you in learning how to deal and cope with these terrible memories. You won't regret going into therapy, I promise. Please call your doctor for a referral. And please keep posting -- it will help. God bless you and please take care. WE care. Hugs, Lee