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Nammu · Sep 16, 2012, 07:22 PM

One of the things that gets mentioned a lot about therapy is that you need to be able to "click" with your T. In most of the blogs by T's and other professionals they recommend that you find a T that you are comfortable with, and can talk openly to without reservations. You should mention your uneasiness and feelings to the T you are seeing and see how they respond not just cancel. I think they say to try one T for at least three times. I've been very lucky with T's but there have been two that did not work out, one I was able to talk about how I was feeling with her, and we agreed that someone else would be a better fit. The other was just too weird from the outset, once was all she got, T's are people too and we don't have to like everyone we meet, that includes people with degrees.

I however am alarmed at a T that would make medication a condition on seeing you, you have a right to not take medication. If you were in therapy for a year and your previous T never brought it up I would question her stipulating that you must be on med's, especially after 25 min.

My current T and I did not agree on meds- she thought they would help, I said no. That was fine, we worked without them until I was doing badly and decided to give them a try again. She saw first hand what medications do to me and now she agrees that I'm much better off without anti-depressants. But the point is we discussed it and it was my choice. It is your therapy and you need to be able to talk to your T about anything without feeling intimidated. Somethings are harder and don't get talked about until you and your T have gotten to know each other and thats normal. Would you be able to contact your retired T and ask for a summery to take with you to your appointments until you find one you click with? I realize being on number 3 since the "good" one is hard, but talking openly with her might help you find another good one. Best of luck.