My bf is german-american, his parents have accents. (I love their accents, I love any accents..) But his grandpa was in the nazi army, which makes me want to barf. And my 2 older kids are a quarter jewish. Sometimes I get paranoid like maybe this is part of why my bf hates my older son. The weird point I think I'm trying to say is that there are beliefs that trauma get passed down through our dna, something like that, for survival and evolution. Part of also why I think bf and I have some reason or karma to be played out.