Carrie, I gave up a 5-year relationship with my last T because we had finally come to different conclusions about what it was that I needed most. I knew about a month beforehand that I was ready for the break, but it was still difficult. I had always kind of regretted that she was my therapist, actually, because we're very compatible and would have made close friends, I think. But when it got to the point that we spent the first half hour chatting about our lives as if we were having coffee, and the second half hour determining that I didn't want to talk about what she wanted me to talk about, I thought it was time.

I love my new therapist! I got so lucky. He's funny and kind and caring and best of all, he lets me tell him what I need and then he helps me figure out how to achieve it. The hour flies by, whereas with my other therapist it was a game of "what should we talk about?" "I dunno."

Change is hard, especially when you've built up a relationship over such a long time, but I think you did the right thing.

And BTW, I once had a therapist who gave me a hug at the end of every session. But she asked first if it was OK.

Candy



There used to be a real me, but I had it surgically removed. -- Peter Sellers