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Originally Posted by button30
She had an affair with a married man, she and her husband are not together anymore, she is single now! I don't know the ins and outs of why she did it but it just reflects so much about my personal situation! When I map talking about my ex and her affairs and t was asking lots of questions about how I knew for sure and how did I find out about it and what gave it away and now it all makes sense because my other t just took everything I said for granted and never questioned anything! And hankster, I am very aware of women's rights and just because someone is trapped in a love less marriage it doesn't give them the right to have an affair I was in a love less relationship for six years and I was willing to stay with her because I knew she had been abused but instead of telling me she didn't love me anymore she went and had an affair and pretended to love me!
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That certainly is a difficult situation to swallow. I hope you are able to address this with your T and try to work through it. I'd imagine that it would be unhealthy for you to struggle with keeping it from her, unless you can miraculously somehow compartmentalize it in a healthy way - not sure that's even possible.
Such a difficult position to be in. I can imagine how grueling this must be for you. (( HUGS ))
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As far as adultery goes, I try not to judge. It's difficult, though, I realize, when you've been affected in that way. I was in an unhealthy marriage for nearly 15 years but never cheated. My husband, on the other hand, tried to sleep with one of my close friends while we were married, lied often and may have even cheated on me - all while helping to make my life miserable. I should probably be more angry than I am....perhaps I'm still in some form of denial.
