I would consider two things when deciding if you keep seeing her.
1) are you able to talk to her about the rumor
2) were you working well together before you found it about this

May trigger affair


I suspected what she had done from your original post on this thread and followed it because I wanted to be sure. I fuses having been through it, your reaction mirrored exactly what I would have felt at first.

So now I'm going to ramble because I dead tired, and this topic always gets me rambly (except in t were I'm as far from rambly on it as you can get- I've been seeing her for months and still haven't really explained what happened).

So my second thought is walked into my head with the belief I have that "once a cheater always a cheater is not true". I believe that if the person is willing to look at why they did what they did, and really work on it, it doesn't have be a reoccurring pattern. If I met someone in dating potential territory in the future, and they disclosed they had cheated on a previous partner, AND they showed remorse, I like to believe I would give them a chance. (dear head, this isn't right now shutap) I guess the idea of, if it were me, would I want someone to be able up look past my past mistakes. So here's how I related it to your t. She might actually be a good one to work with based on her past. Clearly she's seen first hand the impact it can have. Kind of like having a sober alcoholic t if that's something your working on. That's ASSUMING she's taking/taken responsibility for her part.

And I know the reaction her h had makes the story sound so much more extreme. But remember, regardless of what she did, he is responsible for his actions and reactions. Just as my reactions were my responsibility, my ex didn't make me. Yes, he gave me plenty of fodder to mess with my head but I had to choose how to cope. And on the flip side, nothing her h did caused her to cheat.

Sorry you got stuck with both of these messes