I agree with Asia. Who goes around talking about who-sleeps-with-who in casual conversation? That's someone I would be wary of. Even if they have the basics of the story right, who's to say this person isn't exaggerating? But I wouldn't necessarily trust that they even have the basics right. I mean, how in the hell would they even be in the position to know all the sordid details?

If true, it would skeeve me out, especially if it happened recently. But just because the husband self-destructed does not mean that's on HER hands. For all we know, he reacted this way because of something else that happened. Again, I'm wondering how the neighbor would be in the position to know. Seems to me that only a friend would know these things. They don't sound like a friend to me.